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Dear 'J' why are you aggressive?


Dear 'J', I often read these posts, I read many folk trying to be helpful & some answers that help me. Some folk are smart, some stupid, some selfish, some lost, the whole gamut of humanity is here. And perhaps those of us who indulge have time on our hands and as the saying goes "need to get a life" whatever that means.
And then I come across your responses, often so aggressive & rude - WHY ?
Why bother reading & replying when it riles you so ? You appear to attempt to hurt folk ? and I wonder how your gall bladder's holding up?

I'm curious because; there is much aggression in our world right now, and I'd like to understand why - because; aggression doesn't work, it achieves nothing positive, it's a waste of time-life-health-a waste of everything methinks.
Will you give me your point of view ?

Tentative regards, expecting little, but always in hope,


LMGTFY is not rude. It is teaching people how to use the tools available to them to answer their own (usually stupid) questions.

Jun 16, 2013 20:54

J-J junior.

Jun 17, 2013 09:22

How audacious of you Pollyanna to dare to question J! Tut tut, do you not realise that this website is here purely to please J and all questions have to please J. If anyone dares to ask a question that annoys or frustrates they must and should feel the full force of J's disapproval. Quite rightly so I say. Personally I would administer the birch for such a serious offence.

Also you must remember that J is a problem solver and a jolly good one at that so we must all bow to the wisdom that J blesses us with!

Jun 17, 2013 10:06

When was J aggressive ?

Jun 17, 2013 10:52

> When was J aggressive ?
Last time I answered a hairdresser question.

I also hate cats.

Jun 17, 2013 16:34

After J received so much support, I will just post J's reply to a simple question concerning dentist specialised in working with children in the Montgomery area. It seems to me that the question was rather clear:
" Answer J Mar 1, 2013 00:38
Dentists tend to be specialised in teeth rather than in children, so one sort of wonders what's wrong with your usual dentist, and if el sprogg should need a specialist pediatric dentist, what has your usual suggested that you're so unhappy with that you feel the need for an arbitrary second opinion for from a fairly random forum like this?"

This answer did not provide any helpful information but it was just a way for J to vent his/her frustration with the world in general. There was absolutely no point in posting this reply except maybe to make J feel superior or brought some kind of weird pleasure that I fail to understand.

Jun 17, 2013 17:13


Don't you think it reasonable to work out if the person needed a specialist, a generalist, or was just a hypochondriac nutter before you make some sort of recommendation?

It always helps to understand why someone would have such an unusual request before sending them on a poorly thought out wild goose chase (in this case because dentists tend not to specialize in children, and finding such a specialist could be difficult, whereas for normal child dental problems, any dentist will do)

Jun 17, 2013 18:11

Are you serious? Who do you think you are to "evaluate" if a person is "hypochondriac nutter"?!
I suggest you find a healthier outlet for your frustration. You know you can do some sports or even better visit a generalist and/or specialist.

Jun 17, 2013 22:31

How would you feel to receive a reply like this?
Here is j's reply to someone bewildered about unemployment:
J Jun 3, 2013 00:36

1. Ask the bloody chomage people. Alternatively, go and hang in Charleroi and talk to the locals. It's not something that well educated expats with good jobs know a lot about.
2. Yes, No - only until you find a job.
3. You can always give counter-notice. 6 weeks in your case.
4. Everything is always open to negotiation. However, if you are made redundant and the twats don't pay you off in lieu of notice, don't hold your breath - pull a sickie.

Jun 18, 2013 12:53

Dear Riri,

Did you just not find the poodle parlour comment funny, or was it a bit too close to the bone?

Jun 18, 2013 18:50