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short temper
Hello,
This is rather personal. How do you deal with a husband who is very short tempered even in smallest things (throw things, punch them,shout). I think i might had gotten used to ignore this behaviour but now that I have a baby who is 5months, my main concern is to protect her. I dont want her to see from his father that is the way to react when you are angry and certanly dont want her growing up with such image of her father. My husband in general is a good man pretty stubborn though so he wouldnt really agree to do anger management for instance but it feels that i need to put my leg down and get him work on his temper. Any advice what I should do? I havent shared any of anger issues with my family/friends.
Well you are right to be concerned. It's not fair to expose a child to that sort of behaviour.
People that fly off the handle often and at the slightest thing are generally angry. Not about whatever has just happened but usually about something more deep seated. Have you ever asked him why he is angry? A soft approach at first would probably be advisable. Next time it happens ask him in a calm and gentle tone why he is angry. Tell him how it makes you feel. Remind him that it will probably scare his daughter and ask him if that is what he wants.
But if he wont open up and doesn't offer any hope of trying to deal with it then you will have no choice but to do the whole tough love thing. I.e go to get help or else.
It's either that or live with it and deal with the anger your daughter may feel towards you later in life, because you exposed her to it!
Good luck.
